Wow...this blog has been gone through quite a hiatus...well, here I am again..
Lately, my life has been good...just had a really good holiday after spending a lot of time for working,working and working again haha cliche isn't it?
I just realized how lucky I am heheh I'm lucky to have a life that I could mend, I could control and I could build. Okay now the question is what so special about that? I've made several mistakes and bad choices in my past. Those bad experiences left me with awareness and awakening. Alhough it left me with some bad memories and some guilty feelings too. But I'm grateful to have a chance to patch things up. Everybody deserves a second chance and that's what I'm feeling so lucky about.
Speaking about "second"..there all lots of second things that people love. Let's say second hand car, second hand cell phone, second hand designer's bags, second hand fancy wrist watches and the list would go on and on...u name it..
Some people also go for second opinion after they feel not satisfied enough by their first doctor who gave them opinions...
The thing is not about allowing ourselves to take everything for granted. We got to be grateful about what we have. We also got to cherish all the moment that pass us by..remember time is one natural resource that can't be repeated. Furthermore, we're only men..ordinary men..we're not supermen or ultramen..we don't have powers to be perfect all the time. We make mistakes, we stumble and fall.
But God has given us such a wonderful grace called second chance..this second-chance-thought lately really captured myself into some kind of thought..I may have screwed and messed around but I realized I was wrong and the bottom line is I want to patch things up. I want to be a better person. Just cut yourself some slack, get up and try again.. Don't forget to give others a second chance as well especially to people that upset you
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Sunday, September 27, 2009
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Quarter Life Crisis
This afternoon, after church hour, I had lunch with 2 of my best friends. Suddenly, our conversation circulates around crisis. This not the kind of world crisis such as poverty, swine flu or the global financial crisis. It’s about life crisis... quarter life crisis. Sounds familiar? Or you’re one of those who are dealing with it now?
Three of us, me and my 2 friends are almost 25. And all of us are kinda questioning about all the uncertainty that surrounding our life.
First situation
My friend number 1. She is a girl with big talent and passion in graphic design, product design and fashion design. But she is confused. Her fiance currently is living in the US. They have plans for married and starting a life as a newlyweds...abroad. But seems like the global financial crisis has taken it’s effect and it caused her fiance not easily to find a job. My friend has a lot of talent inside of her but still considering what kind of job that suits her.
Second situation
My friend number 2. She is a vibrant and vivacious girl. Actually she is the youngest around the three of us. Just broke up from the-not-really-supportive relationship....if I could say so. Still wondering what’s next for her life. Still thinking about all the upcoming events. Talented, attractive and looking around for opportunity to breakthrough.
Third situation
It’s me. Yeah it’s me, myself and I. Mmmm where should I start?......I just got into a panel interview 2 days backward. Well, I kinda suspicious about what’s gonna happened next after the result informed. But I do wish that I could receive some kind of good news from the panel result.
I found a key word. The key word is ‘search’. Yes ‘search’. We all are still searching for what suits us and searching for certainty. Life is a rollercoaster lately. When you’re on the peak, you prepare yourself to slide down and scream. When you’re on the bottom, you’re crawling up until you reach the peakest point.
Lucky me, although I’m still searching for what I am unless I’m surrounded by people that truly care about me. When you get lost in a place that you’ve never been before it will creeps you out even more when you don’t have someone that you could trust beside you. But when someone that you could trust is right beside you and together you’re trying to find a way out...I guess what we should worried about? Nothing I guess.
Together we could find a way out. Together we could patch things up. Together we could crawl up to the top.
Lord know dreams are hard to follow but don’t let anyone take them away. Hold on there will be tomorrow. In time, you’ll find a way.....(Hero by Mariah Carey)
Three of us, me and my 2 friends are almost 25. And all of us are kinda questioning about all the uncertainty that surrounding our life.
First situation
My friend number 1. She is a girl with big talent and passion in graphic design, product design and fashion design. But she is confused. Her fiance currently is living in the US. They have plans for married and starting a life as a newlyweds...abroad. But seems like the global financial crisis has taken it’s effect and it caused her fiance not easily to find a job. My friend has a lot of talent inside of her but still considering what kind of job that suits her.
Second situation
My friend number 2. She is a vibrant and vivacious girl. Actually she is the youngest around the three of us. Just broke up from the-not-really-supportive relationship....if I could say so. Still wondering what’s next for her life. Still thinking about all the upcoming events. Talented, attractive and looking around for opportunity to breakthrough.
Third situation
It’s me. Yeah it’s me, myself and I. Mmmm where should I start?......I just got into a panel interview 2 days backward. Well, I kinda suspicious about what’s gonna happened next after the result informed. But I do wish that I could receive some kind of good news from the panel result.
I found a key word. The key word is ‘search’. Yes ‘search’. We all are still searching for what suits us and searching for certainty. Life is a rollercoaster lately. When you’re on the peak, you prepare yourself to slide down and scream. When you’re on the bottom, you’re crawling up until you reach the peakest point.
Lucky me, although I’m still searching for what I am unless I’m surrounded by people that truly care about me. When you get lost in a place that you’ve never been before it will creeps you out even more when you don’t have someone that you could trust beside you. But when someone that you could trust is right beside you and together you’re trying to find a way out...I guess what we should worried about? Nothing I guess.
Together we could find a way out. Together we could patch things up. Together we could crawl up to the top.
Lord know dreams are hard to follow but don’t let anyone take them away. Hold on there will be tomorrow. In time, you’ll find a way.....(Hero by Mariah Carey)
Lesson learned
Perduli kepada orang lain sepertinya mengandung resiko. Yah kita sebagai manusia memang tidak bisa mengelak bahwa banyak resiko yang harus kita hadapi dalam segala apapun yang kita lakukan.
Makan mengandung resiko gemuk, kolesterol, dan tersedak.
Tidur mengandung resiko mimpi buruk.
Ganteng beresiko dikejar-kejar oleh banyak peminat hahaha peace yo
Kaya beresiko dirampok
Pacaran beresiko bertengkar atau putus
Melajang beresiko dicap tidak laku dan tidak menarik
Well, the list will getting longer. You can name it yourself what other risks that may follow your strengths and weaknesses.
Apa benar bahwa manusia memang diciptakan buat jadi makhluk yang sangat ahli untuk bertahan hidup? Kalau bicara mengenai bertahan hidup berarti membahas mengenai perjuangan manusia sebagai individu. Pada dasarnya manusia diciptakan untuk bersosialisasi dan berpasangan.
Segalanya akan sangat indah jikalau manusia tidak pernah menghadapi yang namanya konflik dan persaingan dalam lingkungan sosialnya. Lingkungan sosial itu sendiri memiliki banyak level. Ada sosialisasi untuk tujuan profesional ada sosialisasi untuk kesenangan semata. But, pada intinya manusia bersosialisasi untuk memenuhi kebutuhannya untuk memperhatikan dan diperhatikan.
Feels really good when you have someone who cares and you care about. Tapi tidak menutup kemungkinan bahwa konflik bisa hadir ditengah-tengah dalam sebuah sosialisasi. And now conflict happened. Selanjutnya bukankah untuk kita bisa terus move on yang dibutuhkan adalah kemampuan bertahan hidup? Kita harus bisa bertahan dan melanjutkan hidup kita yang sudah tersakiti. Selain itu kita juga harus memiliki kapasitas untuk dapat berekonsiliasi dengan keadaan dan dengan individu bersangkutan yang berkonflik dengan kita. Karena kalau kita tidak mengijinkan diri kita sendiri untuk berdamai dengan sekitar lalu siapa yang akan dapat membuat keadaan menjadi lebih baik. Kita adalah manusia dengan inisiatif dan kehendak. Berarti tidak suka dipaksa dan dikendalikan di bawah tekanan. So, open up your heart and let your heart healed.
Yup I know it feels suck when we are in a conflict with someone. Especially when someone that hurts us is someone that we truly care about. Ignored or treated as if that we don’t exist by our dear one is suck.
Tetapi jikalau hal tersebut sudah terjadi yang dapat kita lakukan hanyalah bertahan dengan segala keadaan tersebut. Berusaha berpikir positif bahwa kita masih ada dan utuh tanpa kekurangan sesuatu apapun juga walaupun keberadaan kita tidak dianggap penting oleh orang yg kita anggap penting. Well, memang ada sebagian orang di dunia yang hanya ingat pada orang lain hanya pada saat mereka butuh. Di waktu kita tidak dibutuhkan, kehadiran kita tidak diperlukan. Semua perlakuan tersebut membuat kita merasa seolah-olah kita adalah one fucking loser. Actually, the real loser is not us...but them. Yeah fuck all those kind of people. What on earth they treated people as if people are some kind of disposable stuffs. We are human being. We have feeling. We have thoughts. And we don’t deserve to be treated that way.
Nothing could degrade our values of life. And nobody could upset us unless we allow them to do so.
Makan mengandung resiko gemuk, kolesterol, dan tersedak.
Tidur mengandung resiko mimpi buruk.
Ganteng beresiko dikejar-kejar oleh banyak peminat hahaha peace yo
Kaya beresiko dirampok
Pacaran beresiko bertengkar atau putus
Melajang beresiko dicap tidak laku dan tidak menarik
Well, the list will getting longer. You can name it yourself what other risks that may follow your strengths and weaknesses.
Apa benar bahwa manusia memang diciptakan buat jadi makhluk yang sangat ahli untuk bertahan hidup? Kalau bicara mengenai bertahan hidup berarti membahas mengenai perjuangan manusia sebagai individu. Pada dasarnya manusia diciptakan untuk bersosialisasi dan berpasangan.
Segalanya akan sangat indah jikalau manusia tidak pernah menghadapi yang namanya konflik dan persaingan dalam lingkungan sosialnya. Lingkungan sosial itu sendiri memiliki banyak level. Ada sosialisasi untuk tujuan profesional ada sosialisasi untuk kesenangan semata. But, pada intinya manusia bersosialisasi untuk memenuhi kebutuhannya untuk memperhatikan dan diperhatikan.
Feels really good when you have someone who cares and you care about. Tapi tidak menutup kemungkinan bahwa konflik bisa hadir ditengah-tengah dalam sebuah sosialisasi. And now conflict happened. Selanjutnya bukankah untuk kita bisa terus move on yang dibutuhkan adalah kemampuan bertahan hidup? Kita harus bisa bertahan dan melanjutkan hidup kita yang sudah tersakiti. Selain itu kita juga harus memiliki kapasitas untuk dapat berekonsiliasi dengan keadaan dan dengan individu bersangkutan yang berkonflik dengan kita. Karena kalau kita tidak mengijinkan diri kita sendiri untuk berdamai dengan sekitar lalu siapa yang akan dapat membuat keadaan menjadi lebih baik. Kita adalah manusia dengan inisiatif dan kehendak. Berarti tidak suka dipaksa dan dikendalikan di bawah tekanan. So, open up your heart and let your heart healed.
Yup I know it feels suck when we are in a conflict with someone. Especially when someone that hurts us is someone that we truly care about. Ignored or treated as if that we don’t exist by our dear one is suck.
Tetapi jikalau hal tersebut sudah terjadi yang dapat kita lakukan hanyalah bertahan dengan segala keadaan tersebut. Berusaha berpikir positif bahwa kita masih ada dan utuh tanpa kekurangan sesuatu apapun juga walaupun keberadaan kita tidak dianggap penting oleh orang yg kita anggap penting. Well, memang ada sebagian orang di dunia yang hanya ingat pada orang lain hanya pada saat mereka butuh. Di waktu kita tidak dibutuhkan, kehadiran kita tidak diperlukan. Semua perlakuan tersebut membuat kita merasa seolah-olah kita adalah one fucking loser. Actually, the real loser is not us...but them. Yeah fuck all those kind of people. What on earth they treated people as if people are some kind of disposable stuffs. We are human being. We have feeling. We have thoughts. And we don’t deserve to be treated that way.
Nothing could degrade our values of life. And nobody could upset us unless we allow them to do so.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Take it or Leave it
Dalam olahraga, ada yang namanya cooling down atau pendinginan. Tujuan dari pendinginan adalah untuk menjaga heart rate kita yang naik pesat saat kita berolah raga. Tidak aman kalau heart rate turun terlalu cepat dalam waktu yang mendadak...bisa berakibat serangan jantung. Sehingga butuh tahapan agar heart rate bisa turun perlahan-lahan.
Saat proses latihan fisik berlangsung, sebut saja misalnya lari atau bersepeda. Akan ada satu momen dimana energi kita uda pol bgt. Napas juga uda ampe megap-megap. Rasanya ud mesti stop atau sebentar lg kita bisa roboh. Kalau kita turutin kemauan kita buat stop justru saat itulah kita sedang membahayakan jantung kita. Detak jantung yang turun secara terjun bebas akan sangat membahayakan keselamatan kita. The worst scene scenario we could end up die. Sudden death.
Hal serupa juga bisa terjadi dalam kehidupan profesional kita. There would be a time where we have reached our fatigue point. We feel like giving up. Tapi saat kita berhenti akan ada banyak konsekuensi yang harus kita pikul. Yang paling jelas adalah kita bisa saja dapat cap buruk krn dianggap tidak profesional maupun dianggap tidak bertanguung jawab. Hal tersebut akibatnya adalah ke reputasi dan nama baik kita sendiri. Remember?! Good name worth more than gold...
The best thing to do is just move forward. Ga ada orang yg mo pulang dengan tangan kosong kalo baru separo jalan menuju tempat tujuan. Lagipula saat kita stop mendadak, biasanya rasa capenya ga langsung berasa.Tunggu bbrp menit kemudian baru berasa kalo napas dan badan kita ud ga lg seirama.
I guess segalanya akan jadi disfungsional saat tidak diselesaikan sebagaimana mestinya. Lalu pertanyaannya kapan kita boleh cooling down?
The answer is... as soon as possible after all the 'party' over
Saat proses latihan fisik berlangsung, sebut saja misalnya lari atau bersepeda. Akan ada satu momen dimana energi kita uda pol bgt. Napas juga uda ampe megap-megap. Rasanya ud mesti stop atau sebentar lg kita bisa roboh. Kalau kita turutin kemauan kita buat stop justru saat itulah kita sedang membahayakan jantung kita. Detak jantung yang turun secara terjun bebas akan sangat membahayakan keselamatan kita. The worst scene scenario we could end up die. Sudden death.
Hal serupa juga bisa terjadi dalam kehidupan profesional kita. There would be a time where we have reached our fatigue point. We feel like giving up. Tapi saat kita berhenti akan ada banyak konsekuensi yang harus kita pikul. Yang paling jelas adalah kita bisa saja dapat cap buruk krn dianggap tidak profesional maupun dianggap tidak bertanguung jawab. Hal tersebut akibatnya adalah ke reputasi dan nama baik kita sendiri. Remember?! Good name worth more than gold...
The best thing to do is just move forward. Ga ada orang yg mo pulang dengan tangan kosong kalo baru separo jalan menuju tempat tujuan. Lagipula saat kita stop mendadak, biasanya rasa capenya ga langsung berasa.Tunggu bbrp menit kemudian baru berasa kalo napas dan badan kita ud ga lg seirama.
I guess segalanya akan jadi disfungsional saat tidak diselesaikan sebagaimana mestinya. Lalu pertanyaannya kapan kita boleh cooling down?
The answer is... as soon as possible after all the 'party' over
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